SPEAKING YOUR TRUTH
I once received a private message about a post I wrote on sharing BS Facebook protest posts.
It was a passionate, unfiltered message, and was written as I speak, unfiltered.
The message I received said “it makes me want to run a million miles from you.”
Imagine for a minute that you wrote a passionate, unfiltered message on Facebook, and received this message…
What does it bring up for you?
Does the idea of posting your unfiltered thoughts on Facebook make you feel sick?
Do you have an ‘online persona’ that is different to how you show up offline?
Do you fear that if you say what you REALLY think, people won’t like you anymore?
And would hearing that someone has unfriended or unfollowed you because they didn’t like what you said, upset you?
Would receiving a message like this make you want to retreat?
Cause you to delete the post and feel fearful because you’ve upset someone?
A couple of years ago, receiving this message would have knocked me a bit.
“Oh sh*t!” would have been my first thought.
I have had a coach that is a BIG swearer.
She’s totally unfiltered and 10% of everything she writes is the F word.
In the beginning, I had this belief that we have to be totally professional online, and seeing people swear would majorly trigger me.
In fact, as I write this, I’ve just remembered that I’ve actually written a message like the one I received today, to someone who swore in an email.
OMG. The shame!
But the thing is, it was ME being triggered by their swearing. It was my stuff.
They were just being themselves – authentically.
If you have fear around posting in your authentic voice, sit with it for a while. Ask yourself what you’re scared of?
If your first thought on receiving a message like the one I got is “oh sh*t!”, sit with that for a while and ask yourself why you care so much what people think?
I’m writing this just as much for me as for you.
Because in real life, I swear. A lot.
If you’ve worked with me privately, you’ll know this.
But if you only know me online, you might be surprised to hear how many times I’ll say the F word when I’m speaking with passion.
But online, I’ve got a massive block around allowing myself to swear in posts.
Look, I’m writing “the F word” here. The thought of writing the word makes me want to vomit.
I’m council estate born and bred, and I shop at Tesco. I couldn’t be more working class if I tried lol.
And I don’t think I pretend to be otherwise. Except for the swearing.
Anyway, even some odd planetary activity at the moment that is activating our fears and triggers.
So there is a very high chance that if you are speaking your truth, you will trigger someone – and they will tell you.
But that isn’t a reason not to speak your truth.
Let’s face it, that passionate message resonated with my community. When I write with passion, my posts get shared.
‘Professional’ = vanilla.
Vanilla blurs into the background.
Passion stands out and gets attention from your like minds – your ideal clients who are such a delight to work with.